Call me unromantic but I don’t know if I want to believe in the concept of soul mate.
A couple of days ago, my friend and I talked while she was transforming the back of her hand into a pink lipstick palette at the department store. She recalled how she felt this person back then was her soul mate but turned out to be a douche. She also told me how this other person makes her feel as though he was her actual soul mate, albeit also reminding her of the aforementioned douche. I told her that I don’t want to subscribe to a belief that there is someone out there, someone that you’ve met in several lifetimes over and over, that is connected to you somehow by fate. And if all this red string fiasco is real, then perhaps it’s the most cruel game the universe has ever devised.
Imagine spending lifetimes looking for that person that will complete your jigsaw puzzle heart but you have no idea who he is. Or what. He could be your best friend. Or that beggar you ignore at the footbridge. He could be your dog. Or maybe someone who lives half way across the globe, or even your sworn enemy. Or perhaps, he wasn’t born in this lifetime, so you’ll have to wait for the next.
How can you even know if someone is your soulmate? How can you know if he or she is the one? My friend described the feeling as meeting someone new yet it feels like you’ve met before. I believe that intuition can tell you so much, however, love can also make you feel things beyond logic, and you don’t get to hear the phrase “I feel like I’ve met you before” in countless movies for no reason.
Rather than believing in soul mates, I believe that all of us has this unique vibration that resonate with certain people, thus creating that feeling of “ka-vibes” or familiarity. The same reason why you don’t feel like being with certain people even if you’ve just met them. Perhaps, past lives contribute to those vibrations, but it could also mean that your soul can resonate with more than one people.
In the end, I don’t want to feel that uncertainty that whoever I’m with isn’t “the one”. Love is a fleeting feeling, but being in a relationship is a decision you have to stick to as long as you feel it’s right. And right now, my vibrations resonate with my boyfriend just fine.